I Didn’t Know, But Now That I Do…

Jan 14

Written by Kristin Andrus

I didn’t know.

But now that I do… I’m showing up differently—forever.

I didn't know how much we'd need support after a child's knee surgery. But now that I do, I will show up post-surgery with meals, rides, and quick stop-bys.

I didn't know some parents are carrying a child's struggle that no one else knows about. But now that I do, I will be a safe place--no prying, no judgement-- just steady love and support.

I didn't know how heavy it is to care for an aging parents--appointments, decisions, worry... all while life keeps moving. But now that I do, I will check in, offer rides, sit with them, and help with the practical stuff.

I didn't know how quickly money stress can change everything--and how isolating it feels. But now that I do... I will show up with kindness and dignity (and practical help), not assumptions.

I didn't know, "I'm fine" can mean "I don't have the energy to explain." But now that I do, I will offer presence without pressure: "Want company or distraction?"

I didn't know postpartum can feel lonely, even when it's a "happy" season. But now that I do, I will bring food, hold the baby, and let mom rest without earning it.

I didn't know how quiet and shame-filled marriage struggles (or divorce) can feel. But now that I do, I will be a safe friend, no gossip, no fixing, just steady support.

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