What is fun? How can I be more fun?

Fun isn’t a personality. It’s a posture. It is choosing delight over and over again.

“This holiday I realized that I am not the fun and I want to be. I have no reason not to be fun. I’m just not. I’m too serious and responsible and I have a hard time letting loose. How do I become the fun?”
A woman sent me this note and I felt her frustration deeply and knew she wasn’t alone.

So many of us are not unhappy. We are just tired. We are carrying a lot. We are holding things together. And when you are always holding things together it can be hard to play.

When I say be the fun I don’t mean be louder or wilder or someone you’re not. I mean stop waiting for the moment to feel magical and decide to bring a little light with you. Turn on the music. Laugh at the mess. Put something down. Let yourself be a little unpolished.

Some seasons make joy harder to reach. Midlife. Stress. Transition. Caregiving. That does not mean you are broken. It just means you start small. A song. A walk. A warm drink. A good laugh.

Being the fun is about giving yourself permission to feel good when you can.

And that is something we can all practice. 💗